Safe to use, comfortable to read, yours to control
Two promises hold this site up: we take your safety seriously, and we build every page to be usable by the community it serves. Here’s what that means in practice.
What the site does to protect you
Every profile and every conversation carries report and block controls, and reports go to people who act on them — accounts that harass, deceive or beg for money are removed. Automated checks screen sign-ups for spam and known fraud patterns, and messaging stays inside the site so nobody gets your phone number, email or address unless you hand it over yourself.
Just as importantly, the culture does its share of the work. A community of people who’ve all been patronised, quizzed and occasionally scammed elsewhere has admirably little patience for bad behaviour, and members flag trouble fast. Kindness here isn’t a slogan; it’s the house style, enforced.
- Report and block on every profile and chat
- Human moderation behind every report
- Anti-spam and anti-fraud screening at sign-up
- Your contact details stay private until you share them
- Zero tolerance for mockery, pressure or money requests
Romance scams, decoded in plain English
Scammers follow a formula, and knowing it makes them almost easy to spot. It begins with intensity: astonishing keenness, talk of destiny, and a push to leave the site for WhatsApp or email within days. Next comes distance — a job on an oil rig, a military posting, a contract abroad — explaining why they can never video call or meet. Then, once you’re invested, the crisis: a frozen bank account, a medical bill, a customs fee, always urgent and always solvable by you alone.
The counter-moves are simple. Keep conversations on the site until you’ve genuinely verified a person — a live video call is the quickest test, and endless excuses to avoid one tell you everything. Never send money, vouchers, gift cards or crypto to someone you haven’t met, whatever the story, however long you’ve chatted. And if anything feels engineered — the flattery too fast, the emergency too neat — report the profile and let us look. You will never offend a genuine person by being careful; genuine people are being careful too.
First-date safety, the unfussy version
- Meet somewhere public with staff and people about
- Sort your own transport there and back — independence is an exit
- Tell a friend the who, where and when; check in after
- Keep the first meeting short — an hour tells you plenty
- Alcohol optional; awareness mandatory
- Leaving early needs no permission and no apology
One access-specific note: choose a venue whose exits, loos and layout you’re confident about, or ring ahead to check. Comfort in the room is a safety feature too.
Accessibility on every page
A dating site for disabled people that disabled people can’t comfortably use would be a bad joke, so accessibility decisions came first here, not last. Body text is set in Atkinson Hyperlegible, a typeface developed with the Braille Institute specifically for low-vision readers. Layouts hold together at high zoom, controls work by keyboard, links are underlined, and tap targets are sized for real hands on real phones.
Look for the accessibility button on every page: it opens reading controls for text size, a high-contrast theme and reduced motion, and your choices are remembered between visits. None of this makes us saints — it makes us functional, which is the actual bar. If any page falls short for you, tell us and we’ll fix it.
- Atkinson Hyperlegible body text throughout
- On-page text size, contrast and motion controls
- Keyboard navigation and clear focus outlines
- Underlined links and 48px tap targets
- Preferences saved for your next visit
Safety questions, answered honestly
What should I do the moment something feels wrong?
Stop replying, block the profile and report it {M} in that order, and without composing a polite goodbye first. Reporting takes seconds, helps us protect other members, and never notifies the person you reported.
Someone asked me for money. Is there any legitimate reason?
No. Not for travel to meet you, not for a customs fee, not for a family emergency, not — a scammer’s favourite — for medical costs. A money request from someone you haven’t met is the end of the conversation and the start of a report.
Is it safe to share my access needs on my profile?
Sharing needs {M} step-free venues, quieter rooms, afternoon meetups {M} is normal here and helps the right people plan good dates with you. Just keep the boundary where it belongs: practical needs are fine to share, while addresses, care schedules, financial details and anything a stranger could misuse stay private until real trust exists.
Can I date confidently if I need a carer or support worker along?
Absolutely, and you wouldn’t be the first. Mention it whenever you’re comfortable; decent matches take it in stride. Anyone who reacts badly to the realities of your life has efficiently disqualified themselves {M} better to learn that early.
Date boldly, carefully, happily
The tools are here, the community is kind, and the join button is free.
Start safely today